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Two Important Questions About Your Marriage

Updated: Oct 13, 2021

In honor of National Couples Day, I have an important question that often stumps couples. But I hope you can answer without a moment's hesitation. Ready? Here it is...when is the last time you went on a date with your spouse?

Congratulations if you were able to remember a very recent date night! If not, then I’m concerned about your marriage. I can’t help but wonder, what are you prioritizing over your marriage?

Marital chaos creates distance.

Admittedly, life seems busier than ever with financial obligations, work commitments, children, extended family obligations, and the list goes on it seems interminably. It is tempting to let the busyness and chaos of life take precedence over your marriage but the price you will pay is too high. The answer to this conundrum is to date your sweetheart as if your marriage depended on it, because it does.

Intentional Marriages Are Happy Marriages

Couple time means going beyond a yearly Valentine’s Day rendezvous. In a report from the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia research shows the many benefits of marital dating. Couples who invest in one another with at least one date a week are strikingly more likely to experience an exceptional marriage and reduced divorce rates, in comparison with couples who reject devoting time to building their relationship.

Husbands and wives who spend dedicated time together further report more productive levels of communication, marital intimacy and commitment. Dating also gives couples a break where they can de-stress and enjoy novel experiences that are entertaining, engaging and downright fun. Whether you enjoy bike riding, going on a picnic, or taking a swing at miniature golf.

Spouses who spend time together acquiring new skills and activities create a deeper connection. Couples who play together, stay together!

Make Time For Your Relationship

Dr. W. Bradford Wilcox, the director and co-author of the National Marriage Project says, “Taking time for your relationship - whether outside the home or inside the home - is good for your relationship health.” This is especially true for couples with a weak marital foundation, who need to devote time to their union to strengthen their marriage.

Couple time is the antidote

to boredom.

Whether you are newlyweds or have been together for decades, you may think you know everything there is to know about your mate. But couples who utilize the book, 365 Dates to Renew Your Christian Marriage, report discovering new insights into their husband or wife.

My hope is that you put this article to use immediately by asking your beloved, Will you go out with me?


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